Looking for Love in all the Wrong Places

True love.

Like the heroines of the Green Stone of Healing™ series, most of us search high and low for true love. We struggle over it and with it, yearn for it, craft books, music, and poems about it—all without a clear understanding of what we seek or why we want it so desperately.

True love is unconditional love. Unconditional love is healing, uplifting, and the ultimate source of all life. True/unconditional love also sustains and nurtures life, joy, peace, and freedom. That is why we look so hard for true love.

Most of us, tragically, give and receive only conditional love. Such love has been constricted by judgments, standards, or expectations. As soon as we impose even one tiny judgment, standard, or expectation on love, it devolves away from being true/unconditional.

Conditional love is tragic because it is painful. For example, the series’ first-generation heroine, Helen Andros, just wants to be loved and accepted for who she is. She cannot attain such love and acceptance, however, because at the deepest levels of her heart and soul, she has judged herself as “unworthy” and “less than” others in her world.

Like Helen, we don’t know consciously that we have judged ourselves. Most of us would deny the existence of our own self-judgments if asked about them. After all, self-judgment makes little sense. Who wouldn’t want to love and be loved in any way other than unconditionally?

Trapped by our own self-judgments in the painful web of conditional love, however, we devote our time and energy to looking for love in all the wrong places. We keep hoping to find true love somewhere “out there,” outside of ourselves, in someone else’s eyes. But that is not the place to find true love.

Throughout the generations, the Green Stone of Healing™ series  examines the nature of true love, where and how to find and claim it, and why so many of the characters, like their real-life human counterparts, reject it.