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Realize that you have something to offer that no one else
can-your own unique perspective. Even if this is true, no one else can provide
the singular gifts that come from your own unique combination of experience,
talents, and ideas.
Our individuality is the ultimate gift; take pride in the
fact that no one else on earth has the ability to present your perspective to
the rest of the world.
The gap between expectations and reality can deflate your
self-confidence. It's important to reach for the stars; there's nothing more
empowering than achieving a lofty ambition. However, brutally honest
self-analysis is sure to yield at least as many positives as negatives.
According to Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D, "Self-confidence is
largely a habit of reciprocation between you and the people who expect things
of you." His article "Self-confidence: Less self-generated than you
notice until you're unemployed" in the November 7, 2009 issue of
"Psychology Today" explains that meeting others' expectations not
only fulfills various needs in their lives; it enhances our own
When you set up a social network which requires you to
provide some needed service to others, you create instant expectations of
yourself in others' eyes. Once you begin to fill some void in their lives, you
boost your own self-confidence.
Whether through volunteering at a soup kitchen or animal
shelter, starting a job in which you help others, or assisting a family member
with a routine chore, having someone depend on you can truly boost your
While having others depend on you is an excellent confidence
builder, it is important to limit the impact of others' opinions on your
self-esteem. Take pride in your strengths, and accept your flaws. Becoming
comfortable in your own skin lessens the negative impact of others' criticism. If
you lack a keen self-awareness, you are more vulnerable to destructive outside
influences. A strong self-image provides a barrier through which unproductive
exterior messages must pass.
If you have already constructed a solid "wall"
composed of self-knowledge and positive thoughts, it will be much more
difficult for counter-productive outside influences to have any effect. Of
course, criticism can provide valuable insight, but having a solid self-image
will help you filter out that which is harmful to your self-confidence.
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